Vindictus online or LOTRO online?

I'm pretty much looking for a game with a lot of classes and races. I'm a big fan of doing quests and even more of a pve guy. i'm not too interested in pvp, but if it's good, i'll check it out. anyways, i like games with blood and gore, somewhat realistic. i tried runes of magic, and let me tell you, that is the kind of graphics i AM NOT LOOKING FOR! Anyways, i like dialogue and good music in the game =D. Also, i would like to be in a friendly community where it's like guild wars; people help whenever i ask for it. When it comes to fighting, i look for parties, but they're not always necessary, just keeps me from getting bored. Please ask what else i'm looking for, because i have a feeling i'm forgetting to mention something, just can't remember.